Feeling disconnected from your partner?
Maybe you just got home from a long day (night) at work? Or maybe you just spent all day running around doing chores and there’s still more to do. That happens to all of us. You’re too tired and distracted to talk to your partner or hold their hand. They ask you to sit down and talk but you’ve got too much to do.
The trouble is that slowly, almost unseen, this drains away the affection you and your partner feel for each other. Over time this leads to disconnection, lack of intimacy, and more serious relationship problems.
How my wife and I reconnect
What works for me and my wife is sitting down on the deck with a cup of coffee. We hug and make each other laugh. Sometimes we make small talk. Sometimes all we have is 10 minutes but it’s enough. The secret is that the simple act of sitting down and physical closeness makes you reconnect.
Another technique that works is taking a short walk together without kids. We live in a neighborhood with a circular road that takes about a mile to complete. We walk daily holding hands and talking. Not only do we get much needed fresh air, but we also reconnect and strengthen our relationship.
Need more ideas? In the Don’t Forget to Play chapter of Grit for Couples, I suggest some other things that others have found help them reconnect and make their relationship stronger.
How do you reconnect?
I’ve shared what works for me and my spouse. I’d love to hear what works for you and your partner. Please comment below this post. If you find it useful, please share!